Beyond “normal”

This entry was posted on Tuesday, October 27th, 2015 at 9:31 AM and is filed under Becoming

 

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

–Albert Einstein

This blog post is the boldest writing I have ever done. It shares truths and insights from an inner journey that has been divinely guided by a crisis.

The ‘lessons’ I learned are beneficial to us all, not just those challenged by a health scare as I was.

Three–and-a-half years ago I heard the most frightening words of my life: “You have breast cancer.” Today, my recent mammogram confirmed I am “normal.” Nothing about my healing journey, however, has been “normal.” And, the celebration of this good news extends far beyond my health.

 

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The biggest “achievement” was honoring my own intuition and seeing that decision recently validated by the medical community, which a few years back frowned upon my choices. Last week the American Cancer Society released new guidelines for screening and the Wall Street Journal reported on the over-diagnosis and over-treating of some cancers, as reported here.  Another related study was reported Oct. 14 from NPR.

Sadly, there is no “one-size-fits-all” remedy. Healing approaches vary according to type and stage of disease.  Each person has to honor his or her own gut and make choices accordingly. I was fortunate to be ‘early stage.’

There are also no guarantees of being cured whether you do conventional or alternative medicine. However, we all have the ability to learn to align our minds with our bodies’ innate ability to heal. There are many resources to learn how to do that, which I am glad to share if you email me at gailjones@supportmatters.com.

Upon hearing my diagnosis, I made a courageous leap to defy the doctors’ “gold plan” (of radiation and the drug Tamoxifen) and follow the wisdom of my body, which told me to decline the treatments and heal naturally by changing my diet and lifestyle. That overhaul was a full-time job for a while as there was no path laid out to follow based on the inner guidance I was hearing. I moved forward, step by step, listening in silence of “next steps.” Many amazing healers and other resources showed up when least expected that kept me on my new path. Much of what I learned about “things to do” upon hearing a diagnosis are outlined in my book in development.

The most challenging part was standing in my truth of what I heard when I asked my body what it needed to heal. Sometimes, that choice required challenging medical authorities like my oncologist who told me she didn’t believe in “that New Age diet stuff.” She even tried to scare me into treatments saying if I veered from “the plan” that my cancer would metastasize. I fired the oncologist the same day she uttered those words to me, for I had done significant research to the contrary that showed food is indeed medicine and what we put into our bodies impacts our health. I also very quickly learned I was only going to align myself with those who believed in the possibility of my renewed health.

My alternative path to healing took me on many adventures, from lying on tables being touched by hands that released decades of stress and terror from my body to moving cross-country to expand my consciousness.

The latest move started as “an adventure of the heart” and later became a much deeper dive into learning and practicing unconditional love from a community of wise people. Those “lessons” will become future blogs and an integral part of my book. This I know for sure: LOVE HEALS.

For the past 20 years, I have helped my coaching clients integrate a stronger foundation of self-love, from which to build to their dreams. I have since learned that self-love is not enough. We must both feel unconditional love from others and/or from God (or Higher Power, Infinite Intelligence, Source or some other name you may have for the infinite energetic supply of love).

Some in the therapeutic world–who cite divorce statistics of 60 percent, along with other high numbers of those who would leave a marriage if they had the financial resources to do so — believe less than two percent of the population live from true, unconditional love.

So if unconditional love keeps us healthy and thriving, why aren’t we teaching people how to integrate it at diagnosis—or better yet, before?

My life mission has always been to teach spiritual principles in practical ways. Cancer is but one of life’s wake-up calls. Others “come alive” in new ways after being broken open through a divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, death of a loved one or other life challenge.

I’m taking some time to absorb all I am learning around this deeper understanding of love and will be re-branding my business. During this transition, I will be intermittently posting blogs and related graphics.

I hope you continue joining me on this amazing journey of yet another transformation as I share more lessons I receive on living life more fully.

With love and blessings,

Gail
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A PEEK AT SOME LESSONS LEARNED DURING MY RECENT CRISIS:

1. Choose love over fear. When in doubt, ask: “What would love do here?”

2. Declare you commitment to LIVING. Here’s some tough, personal questions to ask if you hear a diagnosis or are facing another type of life crisis: “Do I want to live?” And if so, “What for?” Those questions will bring up a host of other beliefs that may need to be addressed.

3. Be selective about who you align with, and know the value of group support in keeping your mind aligned with your desired outcome.

4. Determine what type of environment in which you need to live and work to thrive.  Make THRIVING a conscious choice.

 

The clever “normal” graphic for this blog was created by Beth Shedd of PhotOptimist.

 

 

 

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4 Responses to “Beyond “normal””

  • What an inspiration! Love over fear! Thank you, Gail.

  • Gail Kauranen Jones:

    Thank you, Michael. Imagine if everyone were taught the possibilities that emerge when we get ourselves in a state of love no matter what the outer circumstances of our lives are? Blessings, Gail

  • Jill:

    From your post above, “So if unconditional love keeps us healthy and thriving, why aren’t we teaching people how to integrate it at diagnosis—or better yet, before?”

    YES! “BEFORE” – Oh how much many of us need to slow down as you say. I have been immersed reading Jon Kabat-Zinn’s books on MBSR – Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction and the truly INCREDIBLE research findings over the past 35 years.

    Medical treatment simply MUST include attention to the entire person. Long ago, the World Health Organization defined health as multi-dimensional with many aspects. We must keep this close as we work with people. As a nurse with over 30 years experience, I have come to understand this well.

    Pills and surgeries are not all medicine has to offer. I am so impressed with the University of Massachusetts and all they have done to promote mindfulness in treating those who are ill AND encouraging mindfulness practice BEFORE we become ill. Just as eating healthy must become a daily routine – slowing down and being mindful of what we are doing and feeling, must become part of our lives as well.

    Gail, you are another wonderful and positive teaching voice. You write and speak from a place of love and that – THAT is a very special special place. Best wishes and hugs.

  • Gail Kauranen Jones:

    Jill: Thank you for your kind words and especially your insights as a nurse. We need people like you in healthcare who understand the value of “treating” the whole person. Jon Kabat-Zinn’s work you cited is so empowering. Thanks for sharing and providing even more resources for healing. Giving HOPE is one of the greatest gifts to those newly diagnosed. Disease can be “a life sentence” not necessarily a scary death threat. Blessings, Gail

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